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T.I.’s New Found Colorblindness For Iggy Azalea

I walked into SVA Theatre for T.I.’s “No Mediocre” screening late rocking midnight black and gold shades. For once, a rapper was on time. He was already on stage talking to the evening’s host, Lil Duval, discussing his upcoming album Paperwork. Basically Paper Trail Part II, unofficially. T.I. was doing that charismatic thing he does where he tries to navigate …

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Young, Black And In Therapy

I almost didn’t pick her. She looked mean. Curly ‘locs draped past her shoulders shaping  her round mocha face perfectly. Her eyes were stern, uninviting. I bypassed her to call a seemingly happy-go-lucky professional instead. But something kept gnawing at me. Don’t give up on your determination to find a progressive black female therapist. Call her. Her voice was nothing …

Help Send Inner-city Youth To Barbados For A Good Cause!

Excuse me while I scream with excitement. I’ve entered the final round of my first-ever blogging competition! I’ve been blogging for five years and have never been moved to actually blog to win a contest. But throw out the words inner-city youth, international travel (Barbados!), good cause and writing, and I’m all in. Atlantic Impact is a Detroit based non-profit who works …

I’m Trying To Adopt A Dog, But The Way My Patience Is Set Up…

One day our walk to the babysitter’s house was interrupted by a loose Chihuahua. To the other kids this was a fun surprise. For me it was a moment of terror and panic. I had a crippling fear of dogs. I knew if I ran he/she would chase me. As I crept toward Ms. White’s house the hyper dog must’ve …

‘U&Me&EveryoneWeKnow’

A former lover loved Jean Grae. He was a stan. It was cute. He’d tried to force her on me every time the opportunity presented itself. His new girlfriend appreciates what I didn’t. They listen to her together. I liked the idea of her but wasn’t all the way into the flow although she is a lyrical beast. On one …

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Kim K Never Thought About Racism Before Her Daughter, And Water Is Wet

In today’s shocking-to-no-one news, Kim Kardashian admits she’d never given racism or discrimination any thought because, well, it just wasn’t her problem. In a post titled “On My Mind” posted to her website the Vogue cover girl wrote: To be honest, before I had North, I never really gave racism or discrimination a lot of thought. It is obviously a …

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What I Know About Writing (For Anyone Who Has Ever Asked Me For Advice)

I was home on Thanksgiving or Christmas break when I started the now defunct WritingWhileBlack.wordpress.com. It was 2009. I felt so excluded from my mostly white graduate J-school and needed a platform to write the thoughts that were in my head. I’d outgrown the Notes section on Facebook and I wanted to engage with people outside of my bubble.  Surprisingly, …

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Black Male Celebs Must Do Better Ft. Kanye, Jay Z And Nelly

Kanye West was one of the few rappers other than Nas I’d think, ‘He gets it’ and knew that he really did. That was the College Dropout to Watch The Throne (2004-2011) days. This is now. I’m not on the ‘Kanye has lost his mind’ train. It’s more complex than that. I’m also no therapist so I figure I’m not qualified to …

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You Tried It: Ft. Chris Brown, Jay Z And Trayvon Martin Halloween Costume

I’m on a gossip blog detox. And let me tell you how lovely life has been. Minding one’s own business and keeping your opinions for paid columns is a beautiful thing. But chile, it’s only Sunday and folks have really tried it. I’m pretty much done with Halloween. Yes, for like, ever. It’s become covert racists’ favorite pastime. The holiday’s …