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Black Male Celebs Must Do Better Ft. Kanye, Jay Z And Nelly

Kanye West was one of the few rappers other than Nas I’d think, ‘He gets it’ and knew that he really did. That was the College Dropout to Watch The Throne (2004-2011) days. This is now. I’m not on the ‘Kanye has lost his mind’ train. It’s more complex than that. I’m also no therapist so I figure I’m not qualified to …

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You Tried It: Ft. Chris Brown, Jay Z And Trayvon Martin Halloween Costume

I’m on a gossip blog detox. And let me tell you how lovely life has been. Minding one’s own business and keeping your opinions for paid columns is a beautiful thing. But chile, it’s only Sunday and folks have really tried it. I’m pretty much done with Halloween. Yes, for like, ever. It’s become covert racists’ favorite pastime. The holiday’s …

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Defend Her Honor?

Bridget Todd was met with a barrage of queries on why her husband was only “sad” and “yelled at [the driver] to let me go” while a cab driver allegedly choked her out last Saturday night. Bridget, a D.C. based writer and activist, tweeted her account of events accusing an Uber taxi driver of choking her for kissing her white husband. Mrs. …

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Kendrick’s The King of NY And 5 Other Headlines That Have Me Reacting

Talk about someone addicted to Twitter. ‘Tis true. My engagement on social media has caused arguments in past relationships and friendships. My best friend walked out of a restaurant on me after dinner because I couldn’t wouldn’t put down my phone while we were talking. She was not here for my apparent rudeness. I love Twitter for all the right …

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The N-Word: It’s Complicated

Oprah wouldn’t be able to ride the train in New York City without her ears ringing from “nigga” being tossed around in public conversations like a ball during ping pong. Lee Daniels’s The Butler (August 16,2013) has sent Oprah into a press frenzy. Rocking beautiful curly tresses she’s sat down with a myriad of press to promote her role in …

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Girls Are Made Of Sugar And Spice And Everything Nice?

The bell rang dismissing us from Ms. Gail’s 4th grade class. Within minutes Jeremy and I found ourselves rumbling near the stairwell. We were eventually pried apart and taken to the principal’s office where our mothers were notified via phone we’d been suspended from school for fighting. Jeremy was no different from most elementary school boys who teased or playfully (and …

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Girl, What? Tamera Mowry-Housely Can Keep Her ‘Good Girl’ Advice On Snagging a Hubby

Touch my magazine collection and you’re likely to lose a limb. I’ve hoarded my glossies across three states—Tennessee, Indiana, New York—to the dissatisfaction of every person whose ever helped me move. They’re all like, “Girl, you need to let some of these 1994 VIBE’s go. They take up too much space.” And I’m all like, “Trick, you done lost your …

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Marriage Through The Eyes of Nicole Ari Parker and Boris Kodjoe And Salim and Mara Brock Akil

“storytelling is so crucial in our community. share your stories with your friends. listen to theirs.” – @pegaita I want to get married. Realizing that has taken 28 years. No one knew Kerry Washington was dating Nnamdi Asomugha let alone had we suspected she’d secretly gotten married. Everyone who follows pop culture knew Janet Jackson was dating billionaire Wissam Al …

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Stumbling Is Not Falling

For six months an overwhelming struggle has clogged my throat choking the inspiration from my bones. The pursuit of happiness and purpose gets muddied when surviving in what can sometimes be a soulless city of 8.3 million. Some mornings it takes everything in me to get out of the bed only to find myself dealing with the invasion of my …

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Trading Self-Empowerment for Superficiality?

Sunday we drove to Ft. Greene for date night since he’d never eaten at Madiba’s. According to the New York magazine the quaint restaurant with its native decor was the first South African restaurant in America. After finishing our mushroom sautéed steak, fresh fish of the day and wine we headed back to our hood in Bed-Stuy to catch up …