In many ways I think the “why black women ain’t got no man” meme is played out. Played out in the way mainstream media has chosen to capitalize off the so-called statistics of successful single black women. But another part of me knows that we must engage in REAL conversations about the abhor some black [...]Continue Reading →
Is it shocking when I tell you I’ve had to repress my intelligence in past relationships out of fear of emasculation?
Successful black women are constantly bombarded with haunting statistics suggesting many of us are doomed to be spinsters left to live with our little black cat to die alone. We are also well aware [...]Continue Reading →
There are several reasons I love twitter. Mostly because it’s an open market of ideas that leads to dialogue among like-minded, and not so like-minded people.
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about my current dating situation and all that it entails. Just trust me when I say VH1 should give me a call [...]Continue Reading →
Most circumstances, I know my fate
But in this love thang, I don’t get the game.
Why does it feel like those who give in,
They only wind up losing a friend.
Just cause I love you and you love me,
It doesn’t mean that we’ll ever be.
“Lions, Tigers, [...]Continue Reading →
By Benè Viera
Snow fell from the clouds as people hurried in the Musical Arts Center for IU’s rendition of Lucia di Lammermoor. As I sat in my car I observed many attendees exiting their beloved Range Rovers and BMW’s dressed in a way that equally exemplified their status. Upon entering the theater [...]Continue Reading →
The other day my friend hit me with the age-old question. It is that question that many black women in their twenty-something’s from all socioeconomic backgrounds will face at some point. Whether or not she addresses the question to herself or her girlfriends, it is one every woman has to answer and decide her stance.
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Lately we have been unable to escape the media’s infatuation with celebrity domestic violence, spousal infidelity and the deaths of now two NFL players.
My own experiences sprinkled with what I observe in the media and in real life have led me to believe we are a generation confused about the [...]Continue Reading →
We all know that there are a lot of women out there that feel the need to reassure themselves that their man is not creeping. Most women who are plagued with the ill of snooping do this via their man’s phone. And there are those who check EVERYTHING. Emails. Mail. They search the house as [...]Continue Reading →
Expectations are defined as the act or state of being expected. I think I would be making a fair generalization by stating we all have certain expectations when it comes to friends, careers, family and our expectations of what we are looking for in potential mates.
I’m not referring to standards, which usually consists of [...]Continue Reading →
Every now and then you meet an intriguing individual who you just may throw all your rules out the door for.
One of those rules should be an unspoken code for us women: never date or even consider dating a man that has a girlfriend. And a man who is married is definitely off limits. [...]Continue Reading →